Avoiding and Overcoming Sexual Abuse

The rise of the news of child sexual abuse makes us as parents and educators must equip our sons and daughters with learning self-development. The theme I will write something to do with these lessons, namely to avoid and deal with sexual crimes. 

 

Is sexual crime? 

• General characteristics of sexual crimes is the dominant position of an adult who makes her able to coerce or seduce a child in sexual activity. Sexual crimes include physical contact and non-contact physical.

Physical Contact:

• Child genital touching, masturbation, oral genital contact, penetration of genital, vaginal or anal intercourse. 

Contact non-physical:  

• Publication pornoaction activities, child pornography, crimes committed peers. 

The impact of a child who gets sexual treatment from parents / family are likely to have behavioral problems like separation anxiety is easy to post-traumatic stress. 

Protecting children from sexual violence

• Teach a child to engage in open communication with parents, especially her mother. Build a strong communication bond between child and parent. Encourage them to talk about their experiences. 
• Teach children basic sexual education. Tell them that there should be no touching of certain body parts on his body because the body it is their right. So it is allowed if they do not want to do or do not want to be touched / hugged by someone else. 
• Teach your children that sexual activity by adults against them is illegal and wrong. Do not ever hesitate to report them to the people who they believe. 
• No need to encourage children to hug / kiss relatives. Keep in mind that sexual crimes are usually carried by people nearby. Allow the child to express his affection in their own way. 
• Keep parents know friends and family friend of the child.      
• Teach children not to easily believe the waffle / command others without confirmation prior to the mother / father / family / next of kin are very reliable. We can teach them to contact the phone number of the people trust the family. If there is do not be afraid to report crimes to the police station.  
• Teach the child's independence and awareness, not to scare.
• Personal Security
• Focus on the positive.
• Beware of the movements of people we do not know.
• Controlling the state: make the best choices for themselves, refusing ditawakan something to himself, practicing self-rescue skills during an emergency.
• Getting help to the right people when separated from parents or emergency conditions.
• Create clear and appropriate boundaries, such as relationships, at play, how to dress. At that time we teach children to build confidence and improve the way people interact with others. 

How to cope?

• If there are children who are victims of sexual violence then tell him to:
• Report to NGOs or the National commission on child protection, police. 
• Give children a safe environment when he spoke to parents / teachers / adults who he believed. 
• Motivation of children to talk about what happened. Keep your feelings to remain calm when listening to talk and do not interfere with children's emotions.
• Prepare the child for medical check ups.
• Reassure your child that he had done nothing wrong.
• Find a mental health professional to assist mental state. 

       By: Emmy Soekarno S. Pd